I push people away. It's something I've gotten really good at this past year.
I've pushed away two of the people I was closest to this year. One of which was a healthy act on my part though still painful, and the other of which felt truly just painful but (as hindsight tells) was necessary at the time.
Then, I started leaning on a few particular people in my life, which was truly helpful. I also leaned on God more, a vital act in my situation. But eventually I was put in a new environment and started feeling more alone than ever before. I struggled to grow close to the new faces around me. Once back in my natural habitat, I clung to my family, but still felt I couldn't be close with them. As for friends, I started out okay when I first saw them again after my home-coming, but eventually I stopped trying to be close with them too. I started pushing them away, just like everyone else. I started trying to brave the world alone.
Don't.
We need other people in our lives to hold on to, to help us in the hard times. I know what it's like to face hardships alone, and I know what it's like to face them with other people. The latter is a lot healthier, helps you manage the load, and helps you get better and come out of the hard times sooner. Trying to do it all alone is a disaster waiting to happen. When trying to hold your reality together, all you'll accomplish is breaking yourself. So don't go it alone. Find others to walk alongside you, and walk through life together with them. Don't push them away when it gets hard either, but let them help you, and you can help them in hard times too.
Trust me, it helps.
Leaning on God through it all is the most important. It shouldn't be a last resort. He shouldn't be a last resort. He wants to help you, so let him. Pray, ask for help, and give up your load to him instead of letting the weight become to much for you. Give him control and let him handle it. It may not be easy, but it's better in the long run, and gives you peace for the moment.
And then, you make it through your hardships. You can do it. And you can come out the other side stronger, ready to tackle the next trials that come your way.
I've pushed away two of the people I was closest to this year. One of which was a healthy act on my part though still painful, and the other of which felt truly just painful but (as hindsight tells) was necessary at the time.
Then, I started leaning on a few particular people in my life, which was truly helpful. I also leaned on God more, a vital act in my situation. But eventually I was put in a new environment and started feeling more alone than ever before. I struggled to grow close to the new faces around me. Once back in my natural habitat, I clung to my family, but still felt I couldn't be close with them. As for friends, I started out okay when I first saw them again after my home-coming, but eventually I stopped trying to be close with them too. I started pushing them away, just like everyone else. I started trying to brave the world alone.
Don't.
We need other people in our lives to hold on to, to help us in the hard times. I know what it's like to face hardships alone, and I know what it's like to face them with other people. The latter is a lot healthier, helps you manage the load, and helps you get better and come out of the hard times sooner. Trying to do it all alone is a disaster waiting to happen. When trying to hold your reality together, all you'll accomplish is breaking yourself. So don't go it alone. Find others to walk alongside you, and walk through life together with them. Don't push them away when it gets hard either, but let them help you, and you can help them in hard times too.
Trust me, it helps.
Leaning on God through it all is the most important. It shouldn't be a last resort. He shouldn't be a last resort. He wants to help you, so let him. Pray, ask for help, and give up your load to him instead of letting the weight become to much for you. Give him control and let him handle it. It may not be easy, but it's better in the long run, and gives you peace for the moment.
And then, you make it through your hardships. You can do it. And you can come out the other side stronger, ready to tackle the next trials that come your way.
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