That's Not Helpful

When was the last time you asked someone for help? 

For the most part, we've become pretty independent people. We like to do things our way and don't want the vulnerability that comes with admitting we can't do something on our own. Not everybody's like this, but I know a lot of us are. We want to be able to handle everything that comes at us and not need help from anybody. Why would I ask for help when I can suffer do it on my own? We don't like to admit how much we need to rely on others. 

Sometimes we're okay asking one or two people for help, but no one else. We don't like letting people know when we're struggling, or open our hearts to what's going on at a deeper level. It can be scary admitting we need help. We may fight against it internally, convincing ourselves that we don't actually need help, that we're doing fine on our own, when in reality, we're crumbling. 

We need people. We're built to need people, which is why God didn't leave Adam as the only person in the garden. We're called to help and support each other, but how often to we ask for or accept help and support ourselves. I can't be everything for everyone else if I'm not okay even just being me and doing what I need to do, and neither can you. It's important to ask for help.

You may know exactly what kind of help you need, or you may not. I know it can be even harder to know you need help, to even be willing to ask for help, but to not actually know what you need. It's at least harder for me to ask for help when I don't know what to ask for. Sometimes it's necessary though. How can you get what you need to be okay if you're not willing to have a conversation with someone and figure out to be okay?

Accepting help when it's offered is also vital. Refusing to accept help sets you up for failure, especially when you need it desperately. It's not worth it to say "no" when you need to say "yes", that's self-sabotage. When you're facing trials that are difficult enough to withstand on your own, it doesn't make sense to isolate yourself in the problems. That just makes life even harder for you. Just because you can  struggle through it alone, doesn't mean you should.

I know this is all easier said than done, but I hope my thoughts on this and hearing the logic behind why it's okay, important, and even good to ask for and accept help, can encourage you to be willing to ask for help yourself. 

We're all in this life together, let's not face it alone.